how do you gracefully and kindly tell someone to lose weight?

jon boy · 11.07.2008, 01:55 PM

if someone is getting a bit portly and you think they should not have that slice of chocolate cheesecake and maybe not have fucking pancakes for breakfast or whatever what do you say to them in a nice way?

SuchFriendsAreDangerous · 11.07.2008, 01:58 PM

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Originally Posted by jon boy

if someone is getting a bit portly and you think they should not have that slice of chocolate cheesecake and maybe not have fucking pancakes for breakfast or whatever what do you say to them in a nice way?

be optimistic about. dont make it a weight or appearance issue, make it one of positive health. Dont criticize the faults, offer positive alternatives.

Sonic Youth 37 · 11.07.2008, 01:58 PM

Asshole answer:

Serious answer:
Weight issues are very very touchy. If you share living arrangements with this person, you should probably start be setting a good example yourself and try to get them involved in some sort of exercise regime that you yourself participate in as well. Drinking loads of water and standard exercise works wonders.

noisereductions · 11.07.2008, 02:02 PM

you dnt have to say a word... this little beauty should do the trick for you

greedrex · 11.07.2008, 02:04 PM

What about "Hey fat bastard, what about losing weight? You look like

er no "don't do this at home"

SuchFriendsAreDangerous · 11.07.2008, 02:06 PM

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Originally Posted by noisereductions

you dnt have to say a word... this little beauty should do the trick for you

be careful..

tesla69 · 11.07.2008, 02:09 PM

maybe the same way you tell someone they're too skinny.

SuchFriendsAreDangerous · 11.07.2008, 02:12 PM

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Originally Posted by tesla69

maybe the same way you tell someone they're too skinny.

not the same, being so skinny is equally dangerous to the health, but far less humiliating to have attention drawn upon. being overweight is a deeply personal problem people deal with, and when people offer suggestions it appears as criticism no matter how you slice it, which offends and hurts. in our society being overweight is commonly associated with personal ineptitude and even laziness..

mangajunky · 11.07.2008, 02:30 PM

Being a 200 pound plus guy...I'm active, I play sports, I eat healthy.
My doctor never finds anything wrong with me other than the weight. Blood is good, cholesterol is good, heart is healthy - I enjoy life and I'm a big guy.

Ask yourself: Is the reason strictly cosmetic or is the person's health truly at stake?

Rob Instigator · 11.07.2008, 02:33 PM

don't say anything. It is not yr concern.
If it is a loved one, just tell them you are concerned about their health, but to tell someone this just because they are chunking out is pointless and will only cause trauma.

radarmaker · 11.07.2008, 02:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Rob Instigator

don't say anything. It is not yr concern.

This.

SuchFriendsAreDangerous · 11.07.2008, 02:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Rob Instigator

don't say anything. It is not yr concern.
If it is a loved one, just tell them you are concerned about their health, but to tell someone this just because they are chunking out is pointless and will only cause trauma.

not necessarily Rob, we in Rastafari identify a major source of social ills and spiritual bankruptcy as stemming from the unstoppable realm of DIETARY LAWLESSNESS which is America.

You can not just eat whatever you want for whatever reason you want, just as your car doesn't run on bourbon and your cat does not eat leaves.

The human body as specific requirements, and many of things we eat in abundance are wrongfully called "FOOD".

Rob Instigator · 11.07.2008, 02:43 PM

that fits in if it is a loved one whose health you care about, but calling someone out for getting fat is not going to go well, it will be seen as mean and spiteful, and could cause unnecesary issues.

SuchFriendsAreDangerous · 11.07.2008, 02:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Rob Instigator

that fits in if it is a loved one whose health you care about, but calling someone out for getting fat is not going to go well, it will be seen as mean and spiteful, and could cause unnecesary issues.

of course, hence

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Originally Posted by SuchFriendsAreDangerous

be optimistic about. dont make it a weight or appearance issue, make it one of positive health. Dont criticize the faults, offer positive alternatives.

Rob Instigator · 11.07.2008, 02:58 PM

my cat used to eat leaves and then barf them up

Sheriff Rhys Chatham · 11.07.2008, 02:59 PM

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Originally Posted by jon boy

if someone is getting a bit portly and you think they should not have that slice of chocolate cheesecake and maybe not have fucking pancakes for breakfast or whatever what do you say to them in a nice way?

Tell them you're looking for a jogging partner, and say you'd like it to be them.

SuchFriendsAreDangerous · 11.07.2008, 03:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Rob Instigator

my cat used to eat leaves and then barf them up

exactly.

atsonicpark · 11.07.2008, 03:16 PM

"gid ov yer azz"

floatingslowly · 11.07.2008, 03:33 PM

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Originally Posted by SuchFriendsAreDangerous

be optimistic about. dont make it a weight or appearance issue, make it one of positive health. Dont criticize the faults, offer positive alternatives.

this was Dr. Zorba's (NPR) answer to the exact same question this week.

Danny Himself · 11.07.2008, 04:11 PM

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Rob Instigator invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: In the land of the Instigator Posts: 27,975	that fits in if it is a loved one whose health you care about, but calling someone out for getting fat is not going to go well, it will be seen as mean and spiteful, and could cause unnecesary issues. __________________ RXTT's Intellectual Journey - my new blog where I talk about all the books I read.
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