Tell me how to feel!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Alex's Trip · 07.17.2008, 10:23 PM

Well my mom had like...something wrong with her nose awhile ago. She had to go to a dermatologist, and they biopsied it, and the nose on her skin was cancerous, I guess. And now she is going in tomorrow for some minor surgery where they are going to cut off some skin, and see if there is any cancerous stuff left, and they'll keep doing it until it is all gone.

My parents really haven't talked to me about it much, but I've figured out all of the practical aspects of it, and that is really all I know. So I'm not sure how to feel because they aren't really acting like it is a serious deal. I'm not so sure how worried I should be.

I didn't want to talk to my friends about it because I don't want to bring it up if it turns out not to be a huge deal. And I hate it when people worry too much for me. But I wanted to get it out somewhere! So there!

Sonic Youth 37 · 07.17.2008, 10:25 PM

Sorry, man. It's not super serious as long as they removed enough and treated it properly afterward. Still a bit scary though.

acousticrock87 · 07.17.2008, 10:28 PM

It doesn't sound like anything to worry about, but of course it can freak you out. Even if it turns out to be nothing though (and it probably will) everyone understands being worried and wanting to talk about it.

greedrex · 07.18.2008, 04:24 AM

just look after yr mum in a low-key way.
come around and have coffee with her.
try to see if the topic comes out somehow.
Just listen, don't comment
be nice
she'll appreciated it and she may come up with more info about the suregry and its implications.
Either it's no big deal OR it is but they don't want to bother / scare you.
The only way to know is to stay around
don't ask though just be there.

This Is Not Here · 07.18.2008, 05:15 AM

If theres something to worry about, then I should imagine your mother would be. If shes chilled, you should be too. Just look after her and stuff.

Dead-Air · 07.18.2008, 05:34 AM

If you have a particular friend who you can trust not to turn your family's apprehensions into soap opera gossip, then telling him or her might well be good for you. Bottling up inside stuff that bothers you is generally a bad thing to do, though I understand why you want to keep this stuff as your own business in general.

!@#$%! · 07.18.2008, 10:19 AM

"tell me how to feel"

that's a strange question.

feel however you feel-- if you're not alarmed then you're not alarmed.

worry never solved anything.

truncated · 07.18.2008, 10:49 AM

Be happy for her, it's a free nose job.

greedrex · 07.18.2008, 10:51 AM

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Originally Posted by truncated

Be happy for her, it's a free nose job.

lame!

truncated · 07.18.2008, 10:56 AM

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Originally Posted by greedrex

lame!

Perhaps, but my pervasive narcissism results in indifference to your opinions.

greedrex · 07.18.2008, 11:18 AM

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Originally Posted by truncated

Perhaps, but my pervasive narcissism results in indifference to your opinions.

wahaha even LAMER!!!!!
well done!

pbradley · 07.18.2008, 11:23 AM

I thought the title was "Tell Me How You Feel" for a second. No, instead its about you.

Maybe you should freak over every little health thing with your parents? My dad just recently dislocated the lens in his left eye and has been seeing a doctor to get his vision back. While it isn't life threatening, there is a chance of losing his sight in the eye. I'm partially concerned but my dad doesn't seem bothered and what it seems for your situation is that the cancerous skin was caught early and manageable enough to not be worried about.

truncated · 07.18.2008, 11:23 AM

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Originally Posted by greedrex

wahaha even LAMER!!!!!
well done!

Aww, you're sweet. I'll be sure to send you a sense of humor at Christmas.

truncated · 07.18.2008, 11:34 AM

On a serious note, this is a harsh truth, but parents tend to disguise their anxiety in front of their children so as not to worry them, so really, there's no way to know just how much this is upsetting your mom. But if she is akin to the many other mothers of this culture, she is probably more selflessly concerned about your mental well-being than her own health, so if you want to lessen her stress, "support" her emotionally, but don't let on that you're worried.

Anyone that tells you not to worry is unrealistic. In this situation it's inevitable, and trying to assuage yourself is really just a convenient and popular tool of psychological suppression. To be blunt, of course you should be worried. Look forward to many sleepless nights.

Alex's Trip · 07.18.2008, 12:06 PM

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Originally Posted by !@#$%!

"tell me how to feel"

that's a strange question.

feel however you feel-- if you're not alarmed then you're not alarmed.

worry never solved anything.

I wasn't seriously asking people to tell me how to feel. It was really supposed to poke fun at these kinds of threads, and at how dumb it is of me to post it here.

Of course, whatever is said here isn't going to change the way I feel, but I just needed to get my own bit out.

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Originally Posted by truncated

Be happy for her, it's a free nose job.

Hahaha! I may say "How was the cheap nose job?"when she gets back....

!@#$%! · 07.18.2008, 12:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Alex's Trip

I wasn't seriously asking people to tell me how to feel. It was really supposed to poke fun at these kinds of threads, and at how dumb it is of me to post it here.

LIES.

Alex's Trip · 07.18.2008, 12:21 PM

Whatever you say, hon.

Cantankerous · 07.18.2008, 02:17 PM

well. don't stress out too much because it would probably stress her out, and you don't want to do that to your lovely mother!

Alex's Trip · 07.18.2008, 02:26 PM

Well everything seems fine now. My mom seems just ticked that she is going to have a scar on her nose...

Cantankerous · 07.18.2008, 02:30 PM

it will fade, i've got a scar on my nose from nose rings i've had in the past and you can't even see it
it can also be covered easily with foundation

07.17.2008, 10:23 PM	#1
Alex's Trip invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Southern California Posts: 5,608	Well my mom had like...something wrong with her nose awhile ago. She had to go to a dermatologist, and they biopsied it, and the nose on her skin was cancerous, I guess. And now she is going in tomorrow for some minor surgery where they are going to cut off some skin, and see if there is any cancerous stuff left, and they'll keep doing it until it is all gone. My parents really haven't talked to me about it much, but I've figured out all of the practical aspects of it, and that is really all I know. So I'm not sure how to feel because they aren't really acting like it is a serious deal. I'm not so sure how worried I should be. I didn't want to talk to my friends about it because I don't want to bring it up if it turns out not to be a huge deal. And I hate it when people worry too much for me. But I wanted to get it out somewhere! So there! __________________ KALOPSIA
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07.17.2008, 10:25 PM	#2
Sonic Youth 37 invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: if there is a bright spot in the universe, the farthest point from it Posts: 9,443	Sorry, man. It's not super serious as long as they removed enough and treated it properly afterward. Still a bit scary though. __________________ "One: Where's the fife? and Two: Gimme the fife."
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07.17.2008, 10:28 PM	#3
acousticrock87 invito al cielo Join Date: May 2006 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 5,515	It doesn't sound like anything to worry about, but of course it can freak you out. Even if it turns out to be nothing though (and it probably will) everyone understands being worried and wanting to talk about it.
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07.18.2008, 04:24 AM	#4
greedrex invito al cielo Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: in yr fotobukit Posts: 6,588	just look after yr mum in a low-key way. come around and have coffee with her. try to see if the topic comes out somehow. Just listen, don't comment be nice she'll appreciated it and she may come up with more info about the suregry and its implications. Either it's no big deal OR it is but they don't want to bother / scare you. The only way to know is to stay around don't ask though just be there. __________________ Greed Recordings bandcamp ~The Rex~, stalkin' yr shit since 2008.
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07.18.2008, 05:15 AM	#5
This Is Not Here invito al cielo Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Kingston-Upon-Thames, London Posts: 2,586	If theres something to worry about, then I should imagine your mother would be. If shes chilled, you should be too. Just look after her and stuff. __________________ http://images.google.co.uk/url?sourc...zLTl_B146tcuiw ~~Record of the moment~~
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07.18.2008, 05:34 AM	#6
Dead-Air invito al cielo Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Portland OR Posts: 4,300	If you have a particular friend who you can trust not to turn your family's apprehensions into soap opera gossip, then telling him or her might well be good for you. Bottling up inside stuff that bothers you is generally a bad thing to do, though I understand why you want to keep this stuff as your own business in general. __________________ FuckBook; My Band; My Radio Show; My Flickr Page; Science Fiction Message Board
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07.18.2008, 10:19 AM	#7
!@#$%! invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: mars attacks Posts: 42,582	"tell me how to feel" that's a strange question. feel however you feel-- if you're not alarmed then you're not alarmed. worry never solved anything.
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07.18.2008, 10:49 AM	#8
truncated invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 3,607	Be happy for her, it's a free nose job.
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07.18.2008, 11:23 AM	#12
pbradley invito al cielo Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: SoKo Posts: 10,621	I thought the title was "Tell Me How You Feel" for a second. No, instead its about you. Maybe you should freak over every little health thing with your parents? My dad just recently dislocated the lens in his left eye and has been seeing a doctor to get his vision back. While it isn't life threatening, there is a chance of losing his sight in the eye. I'm partially concerned but my dad doesn't seem bothered and what it seems for your situation is that the cancerous skin was caught early and manageable enough to not be worried about.
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07.18.2008, 11:34 AM	#14
truncated invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 3,607	On a serious note, this is a harsh truth, but parents tend to disguise their anxiety in front of their children so as not to worry them, so really, there's no way to know just how much this is upsetting your mom. But if she is akin to the many other mothers of this culture, she is probably more selflessly concerned about your mental well-being than her own health, so if you want to lessen her stress, "support" her emotionally, but don't let on that you're worried. Anyone that tells you not to worry is unrealistic. In this situation it's inevitable, and trying to assuage yourself is really just a convenient and popular tool of psychological suppression. To be blunt, of course you should be worried. Look forward to many sleepless nights.
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07.18.2008, 12:21 PM	#17
Alex's Trip invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Southern California Posts: 5,608	Whatever you say, hon. __________________ KALOPSIA
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07.18.2008, 02:17 PM	#18
Cantankerous invito al cielo Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: A RETIREMENT HOME Posts: 18,499	well. don't stress out too much because it would probably stress her out, and you don't want to do that to your lovely mother!
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07.18.2008, 02:26 PM	#19
Alex's Trip invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Southern California Posts: 5,608	Well everything seems fine now. My mom seems just ticked that she is going to have a scar on her nose... __________________ KALOPSIA
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07.18.2008, 02:30 PM	#20
Cantankerous invito al cielo Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: A RETIREMENT HOME Posts: 18,499	it will fade, i've got a scar on my nose from nose rings i've had in the past and you can't even see it it can also be covered easily with foundation
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