Dilemma

Trasher02 · 06.14.2007, 04:05 PM

Is it wrong to have a relationship with a girl who's insanely in love with you even though you don't even like her? Just to have some 'fun'

Savage Clone · 06.14.2007, 04:08 PM

If you don't even like her, it won't be very much "fun" at all.

Trasher02 · 06.14.2007, 04:09 PM

True. She's pretty though.

06.14.2007, 04:17 PM

Not for as long as it's only a sexual relationship, or one where both parties are reluctant to any sentimentality that may arise from it. For as long as you both understand that, it's all hunky dory.

!@#$%! · 06.14.2007, 04:26 PM

nuts. if she's insanely in love with you and you just wanna fuck her, she's going to get deeply hurt when you dump her, and then what?

stay clear of that trouble.

also what porkie says "if both agree" is impossible under the conditions-- she may lie to get you in the sack, but eventually she will demand "love" in return; and then you'll be in trouble, brother, with a stalker, or worse.

oh yes:
http://www.sonicyouth.com/gossip/showthread.php?t=13914

schizophrenicroom · 06.14.2007, 04:32 PM

very wrong.

Crumb's Crunchy Delights · 06.14.2007, 05:39 PM

atsonicpark · 06.14.2007, 11:38 PM

hmm.

you don't like ANYTHING about her? it'd be nice to hang out, find some common ground, and even a pure physical relationship could develop and not be a big deal.. but fuck, if a girl loves you that much, you could probably find a girl who loves you just as much who you love as well. so yeah. either way.. have some fun if she's into it i guess.

truncated · 06.14.2007, 11:59 PM

On a rare romantic note, could you grow to love her? Have you given her an adequate chance to show off her proverbial goods? Give it a shot while providing the necessary disclaimers, and see what develops from there. I surprised myself by dating a guy I thought was completely incompatible with me, and it turned out to be quite the pleasant ride, so to speak.

terminal pharmacy · 06.15.2007, 12:01 AM

just tell her your not interested, pretty simple

Everyneurotic · 06.15.2007, 12:06 AM

presently, it would blow up in your and her face.

truncy raises a good point, but i recommend you get to hang and know her like she says without having a 'formal' relationship, a little distance can do wonders.

the thing is that, even thought you will be saying "on this conditions: blah blah blah", all she's going to hear is "i love you but i don't know it yet" from you and, if that doesn't happen, then one or both of you are going to get hurt.

truncated · 06.15.2007, 12:06 AM

Or consider, how many girls will you meet in your lifetime that will be completely infatuated with you? Perhaps she recognizes some glowing quality in you that others don't see. At least prise that out of her so you have some ammo for future endeavors.

Regardless, you should be flattered.

Trasher02 · 06.15.2007, 03:19 AM

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Originally Posted by truncated

On a rare romantic note, could you grow to love her?

I like to talk to her she's friendly etc. but there's no spark, which is a shame cause she's perfect but somehow I don't feel a thing for her.

Another problem is that she's going to fast. I only know her for like two weeks and she's already asking for a relationship. I don't even know her properly!

I'm just going to tell her that I'm not interested which is too bad cause girls who like me don't come around very often. That's what has made this choice extra hard for me.

06.15.2007, 03:23 AM

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Originally Posted by truncated

I surprised myself by dating a guy I thought was completely incompatible with me, and it turned out to be quite the pleasant ride, so to speak.

That's called dating someone because you feel like that they are mentally inferior to yourself, and therefore they end up boosting your own ego.

sonicl · 06.15.2007, 03:30 AM

If one party's in it for love and the other's not, it's going to be one hell of a lot of hassle a little further down the road. Don't do it.

lalie · 06.15.2007, 05:17 AM

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Originally Posted by Trasher02

I like to talk to her she's friendly etc. but there's no spark, which is a shame cause she's perfect but somehow I don't feel a thing for her.

Another problem is that she's going to fast. I only know her for like two weeks and she's already asking for a relationship. I don't even know her properly!

I don't think 2 weeks is going too fast.
Anyway, it doesn't matter, cause if there's no spark, two weeks or two months wouldn't change anything...

06.14.2007, 04:05 PM	#1
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06.14.2007, 04:17 PM	#4
sarramkrop Posts: n/a	Not for as long as it's only a sexual relationship, or one where both parties are reluctant to any sentimentality that may arise from it. For as long as you both understand that, it's all hunky dory.
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06.14.2007, 04:26 PM	#5
!@#$%! invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: mars attacks Posts: 42,566	nuts. if she's insanely in love with you and you just wanna fuck her, she's going to get deeply hurt when you dump her, and then what? stay clear of that trouble. also what porkie says "if both agree" is impossible under the conditions-- she may lie to get you in the sack, but eventually she will demand "love" in return; and then you'll be in trouble, brother, with a stalker, or worse. oh yes: http://www.sonicyouth.com/gossip/showthread.php?t=13914
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schizophrenicroom invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: behind you Posts: 10,807	very wrong. __________________ fuck i'm frustrated, freaking out something fierce, would you help me? i'm hungry and i stuffer and i startle, i struggle and i stammer til i'm up to my ears in miserable quote unquote "art"
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Crumb's Crunchy Delights expwy. to yr skull Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: okie's in the pokie Posts: 1,352	Sad.
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06.14.2007, 11:38 PM	#8
atsonicpark invito al cielo Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 28,843	hmm. you don't like ANYTHING about her? it'd be nice to hang out, find some common ground, and even a pure physical relationship could develop and not be a big deal.. but fuck, if a girl loves you that much, you could probably find a girl who loves you just as much who you love as well. so yeah. either way.. have some fun if she's into it i guess. __________________
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06.14.2007, 11:59 PM	#9
truncated invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 3,607	On a rare romantic note, could you grow to love her? Have you given her an adequate chance to show off her proverbial goods? Give it a shot while providing the necessary disclaimers, and see what develops from there. I surprised myself by dating a guy I thought was completely incompatible with me, and it turned out to be quite the pleasant ride, so to speak.
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06.15.2007, 12:01 AM	#10
terminal pharmacy invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Australia Posts: 3,358	just tell her your not interested, pretty simple
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Everyneurotic invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Mexico Posts: 15,713	presently, it would blow up in your and her face. truncy raises a good point, but i recommend you get to hang and know her like she says without having a 'formal' relationship, a little distance can do wonders. the thing is that, even thought you will be saying "on this conditions: blah blah blah", all she's going to hear is "i love you but i don't know it yet" from you and, if that doesn't happen, then one or both of you are going to get hurt. __________________ Richard Clayderman found alive and still bland! Repo Man has all night! Photographic evidence of Monosodic's existance! New Kiddieriot shit after all! Never too late to share fave rex from the year before! David Keenan is a douchebag! Ron Asheton missed!
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06.15.2007, 03:30 AM	#15
sonicl invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 9,527	If one party's in it for love and the other's not, it's going to be one hell of a lot of hassle a little further down the road. Don't do it.
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