how long should i wait after getting a number?
 

so today at work (i work at a cafe/bar) there was this cute girl sitting at the bar, so i asked the server if she came in with a guy cause i'm interested. she said, "she doesn't know, but she'll ask the bartender." she does and the bartender comes back and asks if i wanted her to make some magic happen and i said sure. so i decieed to write her a note saying if she wouldn't mind buying her a drink. i made three boxes, yes, maybe, no. she xed yes. after some convincing i went up to her and nervously introduced myself and then nervously asked for her number and she gave it to me. also, when she left she waved bye to me.

so i'm guessing that she is somewhat interested in me since she did give me her number. how long should i wait until i call her?

i never really asked for a girls number before. all my girlfriends or dates just came about by hanging out and then things happened.

I'd call at 4 in the morning. If she isn't pissed, then it's true love.

that actually sounds quite convincing.

Haha.
Call within the next two days.
I think that's a pretty safe time estimate.

if i had the balls to do that i would just for the hell of it. knowing people here they might still be awake then.

yeh two days max. you want to let her know you're interested, but give her a chance to get home and think about it a while.

Honestly I think the day after getting the number would be good.

^ Hell to the yeah. The next day. No more then 2 days. If 3 days passes, your time has expired. Good luck uhler!

i have actually kind of done this... it wasn't 4 am, but it was 1 am or so, and i had woken her up. she went to bed early because she was at work all day after not getting to bed the night before (major party where i had met her), but she wasn't pissed off :cool:

edit- and uhler, 24 hours is good.

24-48 hours. No more, no less.

Ha ha I thought this thread was about standing in line waiting for some kind of service.
Which is not the case.
Or maybe is it?
Nah, unless she gives away progressive numbers instead of phone numbers.
Call her whenever you feel like doing so, planning doesn't work at all in these scenarios coz things NEVER go as you imagined them.

pics.

call her straight away and let her know that she won't be able to get rid of your calls/texts for a while. it's good to test if she's really into you big time.

don't do that, she'll think you're a stalker

Do it and test her patience to the limit. You should also wait outside her house and hide behind a tree.

also, sneak into her house and hide inside the kitchen cupboard.

Stalk her.. be as creepy as humanly possible... get a restraining order put against you by her... and then STILL see her... still go around her.. get thrown in jail... and if she still is into you after a year of you sending her pictures that you took of her with holes in them, notes written in your own blood, internet tribute websites, and everything else creepy you can possibly think of doing... then it's true love.

great advice from the SY boards :-D

hahahahaha

then you have to bump her

Call her tonight to watch the election results at a bar.

have you called her yet?!

Great idea if you're both of the same political persuasion. Horrible idea if the opposite.

i'm calling her tomorrow when i wake up. i did have to work tonight and we were kind of busy cause of the elections.

by the looks of things i think she's pretty liberal, but i could be wrong.

you never know dude. better to play safe than stupidly ruin it before the nookie.

also, politicians = not hot (cept fpr Palin, but tonight obv. isnt about her)

so i called her. she didn't answer, but i nervously left her a voicemail. i probably sounded like a moron. so far she hasn't called back.

eh. sorry mang. shit happens. at least it's not like you two fucked before one of you realized it was a mistake.

hm the thing is though, seriously now, the phone number thing is kind of a numbers game.



if 25% work out it's a good average. the other 75%-- just move on.

then again man, she may have been busy and she'll call you the next 5 minutes.

best wishes.

thanks. well if nothing happens it's fine. at least i tried and didn't let anything pass me by.

i'm just so used to girls calling me first that, in my 26 years of life, i never had to make the first move when it came to asking someone out.

just make sure you have your credit card number ready when you call

Damn, I wish I'd caught this thread in time to give you some advice.

You are ALWAYS in control. NEVER let a women believe she's intimidated you. It helps to have a male role model whom you think is calm and cool, and when you call, imagine you are he. Say, James Bond, for instance. Embody James Bond and think to yourself, What would James Bond do and say? Think about this until you are convinced you ARE James Bond. Then make the call. The results will amaze you, I promise.

what gmku said.

i've found that it helps to grow the most bitchin porno stache you can. my confidence is fucking incredible when i do

I HATE YOU FOR THAT

:D

Try and be confident in everything you do and don't say 'I probably sounded like a moron'. That's what makes you seem like a moron. Only 15% of conversation is about content of what you say, the other 85% is body language and tonality. Be as casual as you can and try not to be self conscious when you meet her, but be yourself. When you call her again tomorrow, be confident dude. Ladies almost always dig that shit unless they have an anti-confidence fetish. If you have much spare time, look into reading about NLP, it's interesting to learn how to manipulate the brain.

^^^Tru fax.

should i call her tomorrow if she doesn't call back? i don't want to seem like i'm going to constantly call her until she picks up.

Wait 1 or 2 days before calling again to be on the safe side, I was confused by the time difference on the board. She allowed you to buy her a drink and she allowed you to have her number, so she's definitely interested so no need to make her wait any longer than that. Oh, and Gmku's advice is crucial! Good luck!

thanks. i'll try to call her again on friday or saturday if she doesn't call me back.

but then i'll look like everyone in williamsburg.

add some personal flair to it.

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