Unrequited Love Thread
 

Post you suicidal stories of pain and sorrow beacuse someone doesn't seem to love you as much as you love them.

TODAY: The Turkish doorman. It's killing me.

You know all tall brunette girls with this haircut?

I LOVE THEM but I don't know any, so this qualifies this love as unrequited? There were scores of them at the Conor Oberst gig I went to recently and I almost died of an indie boy heart attack. By law, all of these ladies listen to M. Ward every night before bed, light scented candles instead of lamps at night, drink coffee, look good in jeans, and write indie pop songs on ukeleles. I am yet to befriend one. There's none in any of my college classes. One of them started talking to me about Daniel Johnston in a bar one night and I was so scared that I just offered some piss-poor reply about how one of my friends likes Daniel Johnston too.

i find most indie chicks (that are hot) are either out of my league or just really fucking snobby. my friends are always baffled by the type of women they see me w/. so am i actually. hmmm.

I've had it, and it depresses me to this day in a very deep and troubling way.

The pizza guy. I always tip him like 3 bucks but he doesn't even like, care. :(

What happened ?!?

I've had this massive ongoing crush on this one girl that I went to high school with for like 8 years now. I've had other girlfriends in that time, but in the back of my mind, I've always wanted to be with this girl. She moved away from the area a couple years ago, but she still has family here. So anyway, she was back here a couple months ago for this wedding that I also happened to be at. I figured this was my one shot since she's not around here anymore. So I danced with her, did some hardcore flirting, and really turned on the charm and told her how I'd had feelings for her for a long time.

Yeah... she wasn't havin' it. It was really depressing for a while and I was kinda broken up about it, but at least now I know it's never gonna be, so I can forget her for good.

i'm still heartbroken over it, i'm feeling like i could never love someone anymore after what happened.

Everyneurotic's post above sums it up perfectly.

uh, yeah, hey

Seventh grade science teacher...

*sigh*

After telling the girl i was in love with how i felt about her, she seemed genuinely interested in me and flattered that i felt that way. We talked about going to the movies or something, but a week passed without any contact from her. When i finally heard from her after a week, she told me that the going out thing wasnt such a good idea, maybe some other time. that right now shes thinks the male species is full of shit, and if it were an option for her, she would choose homosexuality over having anything to do with the opposite sex. I immediately cried and a couple of months later almost killed myself. I'm pretty much over it now -- its been a year -- but it took a lot of alcohol and several random hookups. Ugh, damn 2007 to hell.

i found out a few days after the incident that she wasnt over her last relationship when i approached her. so i do think she had some interest in me, it just wasnt the right time.

Yeah, I've been there, got the T-shirt, and moaned to everyone in earshot about it. Poor Melly friends...

She just won't take my calls.

you know i think i'm the only person here who can honestly say that i have never experienced unrequited love.

Check this depressing little tale out. Over the past year I've made the closest female freind I have, I met her on my course, and shes wonderful. When we first started getting close, it seemed likely we'd either sleep with eachother or start going out. Then everything changed when my best freinds went to Australia for five monthes, I realised I didn't need a fuck-buddy or girlfreind relationship from her, I needed a close freind, because my man-friends had buggered off abroad. Also partly because our course was hotting up and we were applying to unis etc, it wasn't what we needed to focus on, so we were best freinds throughout this period, and it was just so perfect. However, on my friends return the dating question once again arose, and it did seem apparent that it was never going to happen, she had really stopped thinking of me in that way. Fine. However, what happened next was not: whilst I was on holiday in New York, she slept with one of my best freinds (one who went to Australia, ironically). So on my return I was told in one cold hard blow, not only had they pulled, which would have been shock enough, but they'd fucked when I was out of the picture. Shame how your total trust in people is proved wrong, isn't it.

Also the barman at Trash Palace is rediculously hot and seemingly unattainable, to add insult to injury.

yeah he is.

That's horrible, TINH, especially with your "best" friend knowing how you felt about this girl. Life's a cunt sometimes, isn't it?

It's not a good situation at all, and I've been in a very bad way about it over the past few weeks. He even had the audacity to say last week that I was "tainting" his relationship with her. Whats more canoodle on the floor with her whilst he KNEW i was still awake. Whats more shocking is if I had to name one friend who would not act like this it would be him.

Seriously, that guy is not a friend of yours anymore. Get him (and her) out of your life. it's be painful and hurtful, but you have to look after yourself first of all, and you will find other people who willl love and respect you, and treat you right.

Hmmm, I'm not sure I want either of them out of my life, they are still both people I love very much, and Laura, the lady in question, is coming to the same university as me, so cold shouldering her isn't gonna happen. At the end of the day, they do have a RIGHT to be together. But then again, they have a RESPONSIBILITY of tact and consideration to their friends, and that seems to have been blatantly overlooked.

Hmm, I've come dangerously close to dishing out advice here (not a good idea on the interspazz)...I accept what you say about Laura & your mate. You obviously have a lot of feelings for them both (espesh Laura), and be around them a lot (which sounds like you are at the moment) must be emotionally draining. Maybe you should step back a little bit from them, to give them "space" (judging by your mates inferences to you), and much more importantly, give some space to yourself. By the sounds of it, you've got a lot of feelings stuff w/them to work out for yourself....

my advice:

just roll with it. go with the flow.


no, you don't want my advice.

You're absolutely spot on there, adn since I had to endure them canoodling last week I left resolving to not see them for quite some time, I need to sort my own headspace out and I'd hate to 'taint' anything further, y'know. I will be seeing them tonight as we're Slimelighting it, it'll be difficult. but I won't pass up partying because of them. Apart from tonight I don't wish to see Laura until we start university. The time apart from them has done me good, and I am feeling a bit happier in the past week.

Why don't I want your advice Cantankerous, I'd love your advice! Advice me woman!!

Cantankers - Harry The Wisdom Cat is required for his wise words.

TINH - I'm glad that you're feeling happier, sir, and that you're giving yourself space and stuff. Gives you more time to spend on here, too :D

BTW - I've FINALLY started working out the Primal Scream song. I've prety much worked out the chord sequence, just need to sort out the note picking stuff. Will find a proper gtr tab program, so I can then tab it up for you. :)

Ha ha, thats great stuff, thankyou very much!

Love fucking sucks..

because it's probably bad

my advice would be to do whatever you want. just roll with it. go with the flow. etc. whatever happens is inevitable.

I have none. The worst thing that ever happened was a girl cheated on me. It was then that I was convinced I should never get too bent out of shape over a girl... because as much as I love someone, they probably won't ever love me back.

I've been with the same girl for 5 1/2 years... if she broke up with me, it'd suck, but I'd move on. It's just a girl. I don't understand people who blow their brains out over a girl. My uncle killed himself because his wife cheated on him. Fuck that. There are so many important things in life worth living for other than that. I love her but I love a lot of things and things change all the time -- so if her feelings for me change, then I'll have to accept it.

There's really no excuse for CHEATING though...

^^^
I agree with you, but surely there are more unstable persons who could easily get disturbed after they get dumped or something and loose the focus on all the other (important) things. and if these persons dont have good freinds/family which can help them bringing back the focus...yes suicide will be an option
(btw I am not speaking about me)

They're never "just girls" though. A girlfriend is essentially your best freind, so when that falls apart, they cheat on you, it stings, as it would with any best freind.

No, my best friend isn't my girlfriend. It's a dude, and I have no sexual attraction to him. In fact, my girlfriend is probably # 3 or # 4 on my top friends really.

And I've learned that I'd rather marry music than my girlfriend.

She is just a girl. No reason to get bent out of shape. Feelings change all the time. Why let it ruin or end my life? It's not that I don't care; I'm just indifferent. But my life is better because I'm not obsessed with it.

if i wasn't already attached
and if i was in belgium

i'd totally prove you wrong.

"I do"

"You may KISS THE BRIDE!"

Damn woman!
Well love is pretty much ruining my life at the moment. I hate it when things don't go like you'd want them to you know, fuckin story of my life.

Ah and shit my head is killing me

I dunno.

Once you've been dating the same person for a 4th of your life (and the fact that I've been dating, period, in soem form or another, for almost half of my life)........ it gets kinda.. boring.

Adam, I really envy the relationship you've got with your girlfriend. You guys make a cute couple.

Last time I saw it, your hair was black. And before that it was blonde. NO THX